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There is no way to prepare for planning your baby’s funeral. It is something no parent expects to face, and yet so many are suddenly asked to make deeply emotional decisions in a very short amount of time. This is not a checklist you have to follow. It is simply a guide to help you think through options you may not even know exist. You deserve to make these decisions in a way that feels right for you, your baby, and your family. Cremation vs. Burial One of the first decisions

On May 4th, Heidi would have turned two. My husband, our 8-month old son, and I spent the day at her grave, bringing flowers and simply being with her. We set up a large umbrella for shade and shared a quiet lunch of tacos, chips, and salsa beside her. We lit candles, sang her happy birthday, and wrote her a birthday card. We looked through photos from when we first met her and talked about her as if she were sitting right there with us. In many ways, she was. Last year, I tr

This is a gentle guide to help friends and family support parents who have lost their baby. When a baby dies, nothing makes sense anymore. How could something so pure and perfect not get the chance to live? To walk, to talk, to laugh? It isn’t fair. It will never feel fair. And no explanation will ever make it make sense. I am a parent who lost my daughter during delivery due to medical negligence. Everything changed in a matter of moments. My daughter began showing extreme

There are moments that divide your life into before and after. The day Heidi was born is where my life split in two. She was born on May 4th, 2024, at 3:27 in the morning. 39 weeks 21 inches long. 6 pounds, 15 ounces. Perfect in every way… and gone in the same breath that we met her. One second I was pushing, focused on bringing our baby into the world. We were at the finish line. Our car seat was already installed in the backseat, ready to bring our baby home. Then everythin

When someone you love experiences pregnancy or infant loss, you may want to show up for them but feel unsure or unprepared. Sometimes, seeing or hearing about a baby after death brings up questions that feel uncomfortable or hard to ask. Having questions does not mean you are insensitive. Not understanding does not mean you care less. Learning what is normal can help you support grieving parents. Below are six common questions you might ask when you see a baby that has pass

Dear Family and Friends, If you are reading this letter, it is because someone you love is grieving the unimaginable - the loss of their baby. Whether this loss happened during pregnancy, at birth, or in the NICU, the parents you care about are living through a reality that no one should ever have to face. Nothing can take away their pain, but your presence, sensitivity, and willingness to acknowledge their baby can bring profound comfort in the months and years ahead. Please